Join us for Self-Lovin' Out Loud!
A sexy kink experience lead by our collaboration partner, Jennifer Eden. Come with us on a sensual journey of self-love and exploration guided by Jennifer. We think you'll enjoy this unique hands-on experience!
This is a members only event and RSVPs are required. You don't want to miss it!
Join us this Wednesday, June 17th, for Part 1 of our collaborative series with HerCollectively titled: Outside's Open Now What?". Part 1 of this series will discuss creating healthy relationships with ourselves, significant others, family, friends and colleagues post COVID and the recent racial tensions. Our conversation will be lead by two clinicians of color.
This event is open to everyone. It's a much needed discussion and we hope to see you there!
Welcome to our new blog!
We thought it would be a great idea to launch our blog and reveal our new logo at the same time. Seemed like a good idea! So get ready for the long transparency post below. It's open, honest and yes... long.
You've been warned!
We're overjoyed about this beautiful new logo! The process creating it was interesting. Coming up with a visual concept that properly reflected our brand/message AND be able to explain and dissect the fundamentals and big picture of said brand and its members to graphic designers was hard af. Having conversations with designers about how THEY believe the logo should look and how THEY felt the brand should be represented was eye opening and at times hurtful. It reminded me of why we created "Straight"... But Not Narrow Ladies.
Women of color tend to over compensate and over explain themselves as a result of not being heard and understood. We are very conscious of how we're perceived and how that perception may hinder us. To be a feminine woman of color that is interested/ attracted to/ sexually active with other feminine women is a huge taboo in many families, social circles, systems, places and spaces. While no one has the right to define or judge you, we all know bias, discrimination, taboos and microaggressions are VERY real. With that said, we applaud those that have found their way to be comfortable in their own skin. To be their authentic selves when and wherever. We celebrate them as that's a victory but we know this isn't everyone's reality as some need to find their way.
We believe that everyone needs a safe space and our focus is to provide that space to bi femmes of color. To offer opportunities to connect with like minded women, express thoughts/desires, explore themselves and their sexuality without judgement and have a place where they can feel liberated while defining or embracing their truths.
We know we are not for everyone and that's ok because everyone is not for us. We recognize that many of our members and potential members are not "out" and that's ok. Yes, we are fully aware that our target audience consists of not only single and dating, but also, situationship and married women of color. The same women of color that often times feel uncomfortable about sharing their sexual preferences with others as a result of all the issues we stated in the previous paragraph. It makes growing our membership extremely challenging (HARD AF) but it is what it is. We understand the discomfort and fear. We realize our families, friends, colleagues and society in general is not open to receive this. So we exist and search for our sisters. We know they need us!
Our logo is our acceptance, support and celebration of the brown and black women that recognize their need for non-judgemental sisters, that know their sexuality isn't confined to a heteronormative box, that are missing something and ready to take the steps needed to embrace their authentic selves! Do you know what we mean? Is this you sis?
If this post resonates with you, please join us! Follow us on Instagram at @straightbutnotnarrowladies. You can DM us on Instagram or email us. Just connect with us. You're not alone sis! We're here for you, because sometimes girls that look "straight", aren't and we know exactly how that feels.
"Straight"... But Not Narrow Ladies because sometimes girls that look "straight", aren't.